The day Big Son’s adoption was finalized I remember our two child protection workers leaving our apartment for the last time, happy for us and wishing us the best. Just as they were about to open the door and step out of our lives forever Big Son’s child worker turned and said, “You guys would make
That was 5 years ago.
Since then we’ve fostered 4 children and a teen mom through kinship placements (where we didn’t need to go through the full certification process because of the kids’ relationships to us, but we also didn’t receive the financial support that comes with certification). As predicted, we are currently working on our next adoption through the child welfare system. And we are just finishing up the tail end of the long and daunting process of foster parent certification. (I know that sounds like we are doing foster-to-adopt. We’re not. We’re doing foster-to-pray-you-are-able-be-together-with-your-first-family-again-if-there-is-any-possibility-of-that, and coincidentally the timing bumped up against our adoption).
I know some foster parents have had their hearts broken through this system because they want to claim the children they fall in love with as their own, and protect them forever, and I know a lot of people (like us in the past!) are too terrified to try. And I’m pretty sure that one day my heart will get broken too. And yes, it’s not easy work. But all I can say about it so far is that it has been a beautiful day for me when a child and I fall in love, and it has been a beautiful day when that child goes home to their first mother and gets to have a second chance at being together as a family.
So there are definitely many adventures ahead for us as an almost-approved foster home, and you can come along with us as we try to navigate it all! In the next few
Relief care = breaks for birth parents, respite care = breaks for other foster parents.
Here we go!